Finsbury Mum’s distress at not sharing her disabled son’s final days
PUBLISHED: 16:36 11 April 2013 | UPDATED: 16:36 11 April 2013
A grieving mum whose disabled toddler was buried yesterday is heartbroken she wasn’t allowed to share his final days.
Tyran Shaw, a music loving child born with severe brain damage, was just two when he died on March 27 but spent had the last five months of his life with a foster family outside of London.
His mother Amy Foy, 19, of Finsbury, saw him for 20 minutes before he died, but wishes she had been able to spend more time with him.
She said neglect was cited as the reason for the court order removing Tyran from her care – claims both she and her family strongly deny. It had followed a period in which Miss Foy’s mother moved in with her – at the request of social services – to help care for him.
Miss Foy said she warned Islington social services Tyran would deteriorate away from his loved ones, but was ignored.
She said: “Before they took him I told them he would die if he went there.
“Not everyone can look after a severely disabled baby – I wasn’t expecting to have one but I grew with him and learnt how to treat him.
“He could be funny with people he wasn’t used to.
“I may be young but I am not stupid. I feel like my son had to die to prove me right.”
Miss Foy, who lives in Lloyds Row, continued: “Social services said I was too young to deal with him, but everyone’s different.
“I miss him so much. He was a beautiful baby who always gave you all his attention. He would sing to you, he loved Rihanna.
“I am trying to keep it together for my family but its so hard. It’s been a horrible time.”
Tyran’s body was taken by horse and cart from his grandmother’s home in Elmore Street, Islington, to the East Finchley cemetery.
Kirsty Burke, 27, Tyran’s auntie, said: “The whole family was amazed at how well Amy coped – how strong she was.”
“This happens to other families but the process is so secretive and I want people to know what goes on. My children will never grow up knowing Tyran.”
“He was such an amazing boy. From when he was born they said he wouldn’t make it, but he kept on scrapping.
“We feel he would have lived longer with us, with his family around him.
“His death has been hard on all of us. I will never stop fighting for him.”
A spokesman for Islington Council said: “Our first priority is always to ensure children are safe and cared for.
“It was the court’s decision the baby should be fostered as a result of very serious concerns about his care.
“The court considered that there were no other suitable family members who could care safely for him.
“He was therefore placed with approved foster carers to ensure a secure environment and suitable care.”
She added: “The family had contact with him three times a week. Sadly it was clear from the time of his birth that this baby had a life-limiting condition.
“Our thoughts are with his family at this sad time.”
Tyran’s family are appealing for money for an urn for his ashes. Anyone willing to donate can contact firstname.lastname@example.org