I’m in my early 40s, a recent divorc�e, and have bits of my body that have gone with gravity.

So, back on the dating scene again, I’ve taken the advice of friends and have gone with the lycra underwear that can put you back into shape under a slinky dress. It’s wonderful.

The problem is that I’ve got quite close to a recent man. He clearly wants to go further, and so do I. But what if I’m struggling with my underwear? And what if he notes that I sag like an old bag in real life?

Barbara says: Leave off the lycra for the next date. If he’s still coming on strong, he won’t mind the floppy fleshy bits. In fact, he might even like them!